Spending the Night With My Boyfriend

[Ooziekay]

So, my boyfriend and I are going to a convention this weekend and have booked a hotel room for one night. I am 18, and he is 20, so legally, we can book the room. This is my first boyfriend and the first time we would be staying together, but we both have boundaries and know that there are two beds for a reason, in case either of us are uncomfortable with the situation. I doubt there will be any issues, but there is always a chance. And even though I'm 18, and legally an adult, I can't help but feel a bit unsure about all of this because it's the first time. My parents know that my boyfriend will be at the convention, but not that we're staying together. I'm not ashamed to tell them, because nothing will happen between us, but it's still a bit nerve wracking to think about. I know my mother won't mind as much as my father. I think it's my decision either way, because I am an adult, but I was wondering if there were any other opinions on this..?

[Moxie.]

Hey there,

I personally don't see anything wrong with the two of you staying in the same room at the convention. It sounds like the two of you have already made an effort to establish boundaries and take additional measures in case one of you ends up feeling uncomfortable. That's fantastic and shows a lot of thought and maturity on both parts! As someone who doesn't tell my parents about minor things, I don't see a reason for you to tell your parents if you think it will cause more negativity than anything else. However, if telling them is something that you feel is necessary, make sure you're honest with them about the fact that you aren't planning on sleeping together and that the two of you have already set boundaries about what can and cannot happen.

Take care,
Sammi