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Journal Question from School: What is the most fun thing about being male/female?
Posted May 19th 2012 at 02:59 AM by George^^
I don't know why I want to share this around, it's just like, something I just feel like sharing, it's my answer to that journal question, and the reply from my teacher... Yea, that's basically it. (And wow... I joined January 19th... I didn't know that.)
SO HERE IT IS!:
If you mean this gender wise, there is nothing. To be female or male gender-wise (no offense to cisgendered people [ edit anyone]) is to just follow stereotypes, according to your sex. If you mean sex-wise, then there are some things, but not many. A lot of people would claim that being male-bodied would be better, peeing standing up, no periods... And being female bodied, which mostly comes in with gender stereotypes, such as the fact that if you are female (cisgendered) you are expected [edit can] to be girly, you are aloud to be emotional, you can wear dresses and skirts, but if you are a male (cisgendered), you have the press of gender stereotypes such as being manly, and the idea that demeaning women is expected. The idea that you MUST like sports and "boys" things.
Both sexes/gender stereotypes have their greatness and their flaws, but even more so if the person doesn't fit into the idea that their body should be claimed as a sex, then the gender decided along side the sex [I guess I mean the fact that most people classify sex and gender as the same, but it is even worse if they are not corrisponding] so that they are told to you as matching, is even worse. There would be the press of gender roles that do not fit, and the belief that you are wrong if you don't fit in them.
I read a blog once, about how "manliness" is tought with violence sometimes, because to be a man, you have to be strong, right? If you wre to push a cis girl in that realm, into boys and told to teach her that this is right, it would be considered abuse, and delt with. But if the little girl is trans (MTF) than this is considered normal, that this is alright. - Not to say that EVER pushing gender roles on someone if they're trans or cis, a child or a teen or an adult, is alright, but it is intensified along not feeling that you fit those rules of gender and sex.
My brother once was afraid to go to daycare because a daycare worker wouldn't let him play with the "female" toys, with the "girly" toys, because he is a boy and that is "wrong" [My brother use to love barbie and dolls as a younger child, but now he's a video game kind of kid]. There really isn't anything really, as gendered toys to a child, they're just toys. You could put a baby doll in front of a one year old (of either sex) and they would play with it [like any other toy]. Do the same thing with a five year old (let's say male) and they would either play with the doll or not, depending on how hard the gender roles have been pushed on them.
This is not saying that genderless kids like Storm (or the story that led to Storm's genderlessness, the wonderful story of X!) are right, but that there should be a freedom in that area, not a forced idea on what it means to be a male or a female or anything non-binary, because it is all how you percieve it, how you see gender roles, or how you see your own gender/or sex, or how you classify it.
There isn't anything that is "fun"er than the other in being male or female, we all have biases in the idea of what is "fun"about being that gender/sex.
MY TEACHER'S REPLY:
Your response most definitely a higer level of thinking related to this topic, I'm sure many people only tok this question at Face value without thinking about the deeper question of gender/gender identity verses ses. As you so clearly explain there is a very large difference between sex and gender and the stereotypes of a particular sociesty come to day a major role in that. A really passionate and thoughtful entry, well done. (Smiley face- Teachers initials.)
So yea, Now I'm kind of like, my teacher already kind of can guess, I mean, no other classmate of mine will go on about gender vs. sex and be that passionate and thoughtful unless they are trans, like me, or genderqueer, or gender varient. It's pretty open book that I'm Queer, and how other people don't guess that, I don't know.
SO HERE IT IS!:
If you mean this gender wise, there is nothing. To be female or male gender-wise (no offense to cisgendered people [ edit anyone]) is to just follow stereotypes, according to your sex. If you mean sex-wise, then there are some things, but not many. A lot of people would claim that being male-bodied would be better, peeing standing up, no periods... And being female bodied, which mostly comes in with gender stereotypes, such as the fact that if you are female (cisgendered) you are expected [edit can] to be girly, you are aloud to be emotional, you can wear dresses and skirts, but if you are a male (cisgendered), you have the press of gender stereotypes such as being manly, and the idea that demeaning women is expected. The idea that you MUST like sports and "boys" things.
Both sexes/gender stereotypes have their greatness and their flaws, but even more so if the person doesn't fit into the idea that their body should be claimed as a sex, then the gender decided along side the sex [I guess I mean the fact that most people classify sex and gender as the same, but it is even worse if they are not corrisponding] so that they are told to you as matching, is even worse. There would be the press of gender roles that do not fit, and the belief that you are wrong if you don't fit in them.
I read a blog once, about how "manliness" is tought with violence sometimes, because to be a man, you have to be strong, right? If you wre to push a cis girl in that realm, into boys and told to teach her that this is right, it would be considered abuse, and delt with. But if the little girl is trans (MTF) than this is considered normal, that this is alright. - Not to say that EVER pushing gender roles on someone if they're trans or cis, a child or a teen or an adult, is alright, but it is intensified along not feeling that you fit those rules of gender and sex.
My brother once was afraid to go to daycare because a daycare worker wouldn't let him play with the "female" toys, with the "girly" toys, because he is a boy and that is "wrong" [My brother use to love barbie and dolls as a younger child, but now he's a video game kind of kid]. There really isn't anything really, as gendered toys to a child, they're just toys. You could put a baby doll in front of a one year old (of either sex) and they would play with it [like any other toy]. Do the same thing with a five year old (let's say male) and they would either play with the doll or not, depending on how hard the gender roles have been pushed on them.
This is not saying that genderless kids like Storm (or the story that led to Storm's genderlessness, the wonderful story of X!) are right, but that there should be a freedom in that area, not a forced idea on what it means to be a male or a female or anything non-binary, because it is all how you percieve it, how you see gender roles, or how you see your own gender/or sex, or how you classify it.
There isn't anything that is "fun"er than the other in being male or female, we all have biases in the idea of what is "fun"about being that gender/sex.
MY TEACHER'S REPLY:
Your response most definitely a higer level of thinking related to this topic, I'm sure many people only tok this question at Face value without thinking about the deeper question of gender/gender identity verses ses. As you so clearly explain there is a very large difference between sex and gender and the stereotypes of a particular sociesty come to day a major role in that. A really passionate and thoughtful entry, well done. (Smiley face- Teachers initials.)
So yea, Now I'm kind of like, my teacher already kind of can guess, I mean, no other classmate of mine will go on about gender vs. sex and be that passionate and thoughtful unless they are trans, like me, or genderqueer, or gender varient. It's pretty open book that I'm Queer, and how other people don't guess that, I don't know.
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