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Angry Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 13th 2011, 11:23 AM

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just wanted to comment on this.
not all men rape and touch women in inapropriate ways. Often rapists can't help themselves, same as sex addicts or porn addicts or even some serial killers, these people often need help to control there actions. And trust me, when you are in a position where you cannot control what your doing it's HARD.
obviously thats only one of the many reasons though.

But that doesn't make their actions right! They are still wrong and they are still spoiling lives. Whatever may the reason be. Majority of the guys see girls as just a thing for having sex. WHY?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 14th 2011, 01:50 PM

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But that doesn't make their actions right! They are still wrong and they are still spoiling lives. Whatever may the reason be. Majority of the guys see girls as just a thing for having sex. WHY?
I'm not a guy, but I can answer this.
If you believe in the Bible, then I will say that it's because humans became imperfect when Eve sinned. I personally don't believe that, but it's the easy answer. Reading the Bible will answer many questions if that's what you believe in.
From an evolutionary standpoint, it's because men want to reproduce quickly. They want to have lots of sex with lots of women, and men who rape or sexually harass women are just being evolutionarily immature. No, it doesn't make it right, but that's my explanation.
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 14th 2011, 02:04 PM

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just wanted to comment on this.
not all men rape and touch women in inapropriate ways. Often rapists can't help themselves, same as sex addicts or porn addicts or even some serial killers, these people often need help to control there actions. And trust me, when you are in a position where you cannot control what your doing it's HARD.
obviously thats only one of the many reasons though.
To be fair pisces did say "sometimes" but it kinda seems like you are defending rapist's actions... if someone is aware that they are a rapist they should have the decency to get help for themselves. I think all women should be able to feel safe walking alone but that isn't the case.
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 15th 2011, 05:24 AM

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I'm not a guy, but I can answer this.
If you believe in the Bible, then I will say that it's because humans became imperfect when Eve sinned. I personally don't believe that, but it's the easy answer. Reading the Bible will answer many questions if that's what you believe in.
From an evolutionary standpoint, it's because men want to reproduce quickly. They want to have lots of sex with lots of women, and men who rape or sexually harass women are just being evolutionarily immature. No, it doesn't make it right, but that's my explanation.
there's no way men want to reproduce quickly! They run away from the responsibilities of a family!
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 15th 2011, 05:53 AM

Alright, guys... let's get back on topic and ask/answer questions. =) Feel free to continue your discussion via VM or PM!





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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 15th 2011, 05:54 AM

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Because it's fun. I'm not sure that you're right, anyway. Obviously genuine insults are bad, but teasing always seemed to me like a good way to flirt. It's fun, it makes girls laugh, a witty riposte demonstrates your intelligence and sense of humour, and perhaps most importantly it shows you aren't scared of her. It's a way to be a nice guy without the pathetic, grovelling supplication that whiny "nice guys" default to.

Question for the girls of TH: am I right?
Teasing is a great way to flirt in my opinion.
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 18th 2011, 03:45 PM

Why do some guys act like there second graders, then ask us out expecting us to take them seriously?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 19th 2011, 09:35 PM

Questions for the guys-
If you could choose, an ideal figure for your girlfriend to have, what would you choose?

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Why are you so obsessed with blowjobs? xD
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 19th 2011, 09:48 PM

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Questions for the guys-
If you could choose, an ideal figure for your girlfriend to have, what would you choose?
Tall-ish, slim. Little bit of muscle, because it's kind of weird when a slim girl is just squishy all over. Long as she's toned, it's cool. Not overly concerned about boob size, so long as they aren't cartoonishly huge, non-existent or saggy. Medium, I guess? Tight, smackable ass with a touch of jiggle. Not huge rap-video ass, more pert.

Damnit, now I want to go hunting girls again. I have an essay to write.




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It feels good. Plus it's kind of a dominance thing, getting a girl to suck your cock. Especially if she swallows. Wouldn't say I'm obsessed exactly, but I'd probably break up with a girl who didn't give them.




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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 20th 2011, 10:36 PM

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It feels good. Plus it's kind of a dominance thing, getting a girl to suck your cock. Especially if she swallows. Wouldn't say I'm obsessed exactly, but I'd probably break up with a girl who didn't give them.
This.

Blowjobs physically feel better than sex. Sex is more intimate and psychologically pleasing sometimes...but blowjobs feel beyond heavenly. Blowjobs are always preferred over sex.


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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I - January 21st 2011, 01:53 AM

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Yeah! This forum's back! I've got a question for girls but dudes can answer too.

Which gender has it the hardest? (Difficult life, problems, relationships, physically, every category!)
I think guys cue they are expected to make like all the moves in a relationship


Everyone has to date a few jerks so they know when they have found a true gem<3

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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 29th 2011, 01:17 AM

This questions for the guys...
Do most 14/15 year old guys just date girls, just to date? How seriously do most take relationships? How much do looks matter? Why do guys seem like they don't want to express their feelings, is it just about seeming like a sissy or what??
One more question, this one us for everyone ..
How much time is normal to spend with you boyfriend/girlfriend? I lied.... One final question lol , (for guys again) is it annoying when your girlfriend calls, or is it usually easier to talk by text? Thanks (:
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 29th 2011, 01:25 AM

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Do most 14/15 year old guys just date girls, just to date?
Do they want a girlfriend? Probably yes. There's no real hookup culture at 14, although people will make out at parties and stuff. Will it last? No.

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Not very. Particularly the ones who can actually get a relationship.

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A lot, at any age. Don't believe any guy who tells you different, because he thinks you're unattractive but he's trying to get his tongue in your mouth anyway.

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Texting is better than calling, for me anyway. I've always hated talking on the phone. And if she calls occasionally, that's fine, but wanting to talk for hours each day is annoying.



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 29th 2011, 09:33 AM

Girls: Why do you date assholes, just because they're hot?

Or is that only 14 year old girls?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 29th 2011, 07:31 PM

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Girls: Why do you date assholes, just because they're hot?

Or is that only 14 year old girls?
Well, I do it because I know it's not going to last anyway even if he was nice. So why not date an attractive boy? It's not going to work anyway.

I can't really answer for the whole gender, but a lot of girls I know agree with that logic.



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 29th 2011, 08:19 PM

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Girls: Why do you date assholes, just because they're hot?

Or is that only 14 year old girls?
In my case, I didn't know he was a jerk until we were well into the relationship. None of our friends spoke up when we first started dating, and he was a decent actor, so I didn't pick up on the "jerkiness" until I was already emotionally invested in the relationship.

Of course, he wasn't what most people would call "hot"... although he was in my eyes. =P

Other theories I can come up with include:
- Girl just wants a fling/casual relationship, so looks are more important and personality doesn't count for as much.
- Girl doesn't feel like she deserves a nice guy, so she goes for whoever will have her (usually the jerks).
- Girl wants to move up in social ranking, so putting up with a jerk seems like a small price to pay.
- Guy isn't actually as big of a jerk as you think he is (although that's unlikely).





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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - January 31st 2011, 07:07 PM

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Or is that only 14 year old girls?
It had nothing to do with the person being "hot," but I feel the reason I became interested is because of that saying that girls date their fathers. I had no idea that there were men out there who actually treated women well. I felt inferior, as though I deserved the way I was being treated; after all, with the way my father treated me, my sister, and mother, what model did I have to prove any differently? It never went anywhere serious, however, and thank god for that.

My first relationship was with the typical "nice guy." He had a bit of a jerky sense of humour, as in we teased each other constantly. The boy was cute, humourous, respectful, treated me very well (never pressured me sexually, never eyed up other women or spoke of other women while we were out together, never flirted with other women while we were out together, etc.), was very considerate of my feelings and was equally as open about his (I love a man who's man enough to show emotion), and so on. And he loved me for me. Regardless of my flaws that yes, occasionally caused arguments, he loved me. And honestly, I'm not settling for anything less than that. My standards may not be Disney high, but they're high. My ex showed me that I do deserve to be loved, respected, and treated well. So for me, it was a matter of a) not feeling like I deserved any better (originally) and b) not having had a male role model to show me that men could be any different than an asshole.
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 9th 2011, 08:28 PM

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Well, I do it because I know it's not going to last anyway even if he was nice. So why not date an attractive boy? It's not going to work anyway.

I can't really answer for the whole gender, but a lot of girls I know agree with that logic.
Still, dating jerks is dangerous. They'll hurt you in the end. And besides, nice guys will be good to you, so why not have an enjoyable relationship?

For girls: Would you rather date a tough, hard, muscular guy or a sweet, soft, cuddly guy who could still protect you and why?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 9th 2011, 08:54 PM

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Soft, Sweet, Cuddly Guy - ALL THE WAY

I guess I'm just a really cuddly person, and I'd prefer to have someone I can cuddle up to properly than cuddle up to a brick! Not that there's anything wrong with bricks I also have this stereotype in my head, that anyone thats 'tough, muscular etc' must be pretty self obsessed in order to 'create' a body like that, plus, although I like a 'man' - a guy who can practically fix stuff - like lightbulbs - haha - I wouldn't want to be a trouble maker


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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 9th 2011, 10:30 PM

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For girls: Would you rather date a tough, hard, muscular guy or a sweet, soft, cuddly guy who could still protect you and why?
A little bit of both. I've dated chubby men, extremely fit men, and men that are somewhere in the middle. Personally, I prefer fit or "average". I also like a man who's not afraid to take charge of a situation, who is pro-active, who can be confrontational when needed, etc. I don't want him to be a raging bull, though. xD Definitely enjoy cuddling and having that sweet, puppy-dog love as well. I never have understood why people feel they have to choose between the two stereotypes of "badass" vs. "nice guy"... why not find someone who can be both?!





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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 04:03 AM

Okay, here is a question for girls.

How long would you wait for a guy that you like, is in a relationship and on his way of getting out of it? He admits he likes you, but has a complicated relationship and it's not easy to break off. How long would you wait for him? Thanks


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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 04:22 AM

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How long would you wait for a guy that you like, is in a relationship and on his way of getting out of it? He admits he likes you, but has a complicated relationship and it's not easy to break off. How long would you wait for him? Thanks
I would wait until something better came along. Just being honest ^_^



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 04:35 AM

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I would wait until something better came along. Just being honest ^_^
All I ask. I guess by 'complicated', I mean kind of unsure whether I want to date the new girl or not


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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 04:37 AM

Well, if I'm not waiting for something better, I'd give it a month before I gave up on him.



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 04:58 AM

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I'm not entirely sure, as I've always been the one to pursue men... but I'm also thinking about a month. That's a lot of time to think about how he'd want to go about breaking up with his current girlfriend, get his affairs in order, and follow through. If it took him longer than that, I'd start to wonder how serious he was about leaving his current girlfriend. Since I wouldn't want to be played for a fool, and since I could only hold out emotionally for so long, I'd probably start moving on after a month with no tangible results. If I was REALLY interested in the guy, however, and I wasn't interested in ANYONE ELSE, I might wait around for longer.





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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 07:16 AM

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I'm not entirely sure, as I've always been the one to pursue men... but I'm also thinking about a month. That's a lot of time to think about how he'd want to go about breaking up with his current girlfriend, get his affairs in order, and follow through. If it took him longer than that, I'd start to wonder how serious he was about leaving his current girlfriend. Since I wouldn't want to be played for a fool, and since I could only hold out emotionally for so long, I'd probably start moving on after a month with no tangible results. If I was REALLY interested in the guy, however, and I wasn't interested in ANYONE ELSE, I might wait around for longer.
Perfect, and if he decided to not follow through with the new girl, would you still be willing to stay friends with him?


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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 07:26 AM

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Perfect, and if he decided to not follow through with the new girl, would you still be willing to stay friends with him?
Sure! I mean, if he was genuinely torn between breaking up with his girlfriend and dating me, and he wasn't just jerking me around/giving me false hope, I could be friends with him afterward. I might need some time to get over him, if I became too emotionally invested in him and the possibility of having a romantic relationship with him... but so long as he was honest with me and I didn't feel like he had ulterior motives, I could get over my feelings and move on with time.





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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 08:12 PM

I have a question for most guys: What is with your obbsesion with boobs? xD



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 08:20 PM

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I have a question for most guys: What is with your obbsesion with boobs? xD
I wouldn't call it an obsession, exactly. But they look and feel nice. And from an evolutionary standpoint, shapely, non-saggy boobs are a sign of youth and therefore fertility, so it makes sense for guys to like them.



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 10th 2011, 08:30 PM

I've never thought of it that way.



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 11th 2011, 01:16 AM

I've never understood the guys-being-obsessed-with-boobs-thing... I ask my friends all the time, and I get a lot of "they're fun", "they're magic", "they're like god's pillows" etc, lol.

questionnn, all sexes. soo curious. preference-related: for heterosexuals, what is your comfort-level, dating someone who's bisexual? .... how about transexual?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 11th 2011, 01:21 AM

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questionnn, all sexes. soo curious. preference-related: for heterosexuals, what is your comfort-level, dating someone who's bisexual? .... how about transexual?
I'd date a bi girl. That isn't just theoretical, either: I tend to end up with bi girls. I don't care about it one way or the other, but for whatever reason almost all of the girls I've liked have turned out to be bi.

Transsexual? I really don't know. Probably not, but I'm willing to be proven wrong.



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 11th 2011, 03:08 AM

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questionnn, all sexes. soo curious. preference-related: for heterosexuals, what is your comfort-level, dating someone who's bisexual? .... how about transexual?
Bisexual is cool. Transexual never. The whole time I'm with them I will be picturing the other gender. ugh


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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 11th 2011, 04:18 PM

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Majority of the guys see girls as just a thing for having sex. WHY?
That's just untrue. Making sweeping generalizations is dangerous, and will undoubtedly harm any potential relationship you may have in the future if you keep having those opinions. Most guys do not see girls as just sex objects. If you find it's a common trait among guys you date, then you might want to modify your standards in who you're looking for. I know for a fact that I, as well as any man I've known personally, will say that what you've said is untrue in the most fundamental sense.

Question for basically anyone:

My girlfriend, with whom I'm in a long distance relationship, admits to being attracted to other guys who have physical features similar to mine...am I right in feeling insecure or at least sad because I'm not satisfying her needs in this way?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 13th 2011, 08:33 AM

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That's just untrue. Making sweeping generalizations is dangerous, and will undoubtedly harm any potential relationship you may have in the future if you keep having those opinions. Most guys do not see girls as just sex objects. If you find it's a common trait among guys you date, then you might want to modify your standards in who you're looking for. I know for a fact that I, as well as any man I've known personally, will say that what you've said is untrue in the most fundamental sense.

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My girlfriend, with whom I'm in a long distance relationship, admits to being attracted to other guys who have physical features similar to mine...am I right in feeling insecure or at least sad because I'm not satisfying her needs in this way?
I'm guessing she's attracted to them because she misses you. It's actually quite normal in long-distance relationships. You don't have to worry about not satisfying her needs--the distance isn't your fault. You're neither right nor wrong!

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If a girl has a deep voice, is that a turnoff?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 13th 2011, 11:25 AM

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If a girl has a deep voice, is that a turnoff?
It's a little weird, although just because a girl thinks her own voice is deep doesn't necessarily mean that other people agree.



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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 13th 2011, 04:22 PM

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If a girl has a deep voice, is that a turnoff?
Depends how deep. A nerdy monotone can be cute, but a bombastic tuba is hideous.


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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 14th 2011, 08:08 AM

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Depends how deep. A nerdy monotone can be cute, but a bombastic tuba is hideous.
I'm the bombastic tuba type. Then again, I'm also hideous. It works out perfectly
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 21st 2011, 08:11 PM

Okay, here's another question. What are all the reasons for girls to have such low self-confidence to the point that she'll do absolutely anything (or anyone) to make her feel good even though there's nothing to feel bad about?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - February 21st 2011, 08:35 PM

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Okay, here's another question. What are all the reasons for girls to have such low self-confidence to the point that she'll do absolutely anything (or anyone) to make her feel good even though there's nothing to feel bad about?
Well, girls can have all sorts of reasons for having low self-esteem. If they haven't received a whole lot of love and support from family members and friends over the years, then that could affect them. If they have an untreated mental disorder (ex. depression or anxiety), that could also affect the way they view themselves. For some girls, one little thing can cause them to ruminate for YEARS, whereas for other girls, it takes a large number of things to chip away at their self-esteem.





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