did i mess up

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]so my girlfriend and i have dated for two weeks and we were cuddling watching a movie she kissed me on my cheek and then i waited a little and kissed her on the lips then pulled away. i didnt hold the kiss ebcause she didnt kiss me back but her friends told me she was sad that i didnt kiss her longer. is this a problem and how can i fix my mistake.[/size][/color][/font]

[geek27]

Well, just kiss her again, on way she wants next time You meet

[Ennui.]

Hey,

I think it's understandable that you pulled away since she didn't kiss you back. I'm sure you didn't want to make her feel pressured or uncomfortable.

Do you think you'd be able to talk to her about what she wants and what to do in that situation if it comes up again? That way you know exactly what her expectations are when it comes to kissing and what exactly she's comfortable with. You can explain that you heard she was disappointed and say why you didn't kiss her longer, and say you want to fix it for next tme.

[Ambedo.]

U don't think you messed up at all! Navigating new relationships can be tricky, especially when it comes to knowing what to do with things like kissing. Since you felt like she wasn't kissing you back, it's completely understandable that you pulled back. I'm sure you didn't want to make her feel pressured or make her feel like you were going to keep kissing her, regardless of whether or not she enjoyed it.

Have you had the opportunity to talk to her about the kiss and what her friends have told you? If not, perhaps you can reach out to her and set aside some time to have that conversation. You can explain to her why you pulled back and let her know that it wasn't your intention to make her sad. You can also use that conversation as an opportunity to talk about expectations for things like kissing and learn what each other wants and what each other is comfortable with. Perhaps you can also explain to her that, while you understand that she wanted to talk to her friends about it, you would also like her to feel comfortable talking to you about things like that so you can understand how she feels about things, what her expectations are, and work to meet those.

[TH Anonymous]

[SIZE="a"]she was upset that it didn't last longer she said not mad but sad. ill make it up to her i just didnt want to make her feel uncomfartable[/size]

[Ennui.]

Talking to her about was a great idea! Now you know what to do next time and you know what her expectations are. Great job at communicating!

[Ambedo.]

I think it's great that you talked to her about it! Communication is so important in relationships and you did a wonderful job with that by having that conversation with her.