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Question Dating for a year, we are only friends? - July 11th 2011, 07:23 PM

Relationship has been rocky, he says most of the time he feels blank towards me, but sometimes, he does feel romance towards me. Then there are also times when he feels like we are just bestfriends. We havent had sex in a month. I dont know what it all means. whenever the subject of breaking up comes arounds he is very against it. And says he loves me. And that he thinks he'd have the same problems while dating anyone, so if he has to go through rough times with anyone he wants it to be me. Good Lord... I love him. I love our memories. The relationship is deffinatly not the same as before. I dont want it to end.

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Re: Dating for a year, we are only friends? - July 11th 2011, 08:49 PM

I'm not exactly sure what is going through his head, but it sounds like he might have some commitment issues. He loves you, but he sometimes doesn't feel romantic feelings toward you. To me, that doesn't sound much like a relationship. I would sit down and talk to him about it, you need to have answers in order to keep the relationship alive.

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Re: Dating for a year, we are only friends? - July 11th 2011, 09:07 PM

Sometimes things in a relationship just slow down. But it's okay! Obviously he loves you and doesn't want to break up with you and obviously you don't want things to end either. Relationships aren't always romance and acting all boyfriend/girlfriend all the time. Sometimes relationship take you back and make you realize not only are you amazing lovers and partners but you also have an amazing connection as best friends. That is always nice to have and cherish in a relationship. If it is really bothering you, you should just ask him what is going on in his head. Ask him to talk you and convey your feelings on the matter.

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Re: Dating for a year, we are only friends? - July 13th 2011, 03:02 AM

Most of the time he feels blank towards you? Honestly, I would suggest taking a one week break--like not to see other people, just to get some space from each other, think things over, hang out with friends, and get your minds cleared out on this a little bit. Sometimes instead of CONSTANTLY trying to tackle an issue, what you really need is to experience other things in life to give you some perspective.
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