Why can 2 people in the same family get treated so differently? Let me give you an example, if I pushed into my brother I would be grounded and if he comes up and punches me repeatedly in the shoulders then it is my fault. let me give you another example if I throw a shoe and it accidentally hits him i get a shoe thrown at me by my dad who is standing less than a meter away. if anyone could give me an answer to my question in bold i would appreciate it greatly.