Female Advice Preferred: Girlfriend is too tight - what do?

[Pyromania]

The title says it all, really. Me and my girlfriend are planning to have sex next month (New Year's Eve, it's her first time so we want to make it special). Thing is, she's a bit too tight and I'm a bit big - what do we do? I can fit my middle finger in up to the hilt, but that's about it. I'm worried that I won't fit and that it'll ruin the night. Is there anything she/we can do beforehand, in the run up, to stretch her to the point where she can accommodate me?

I know about foreplay/lube and such, that's all taken into account. Would lubing up my fingers and trying to fit multiple ones in (one at a time, no rush) work? I'm at a loss as to what I should do, so any and all help will be much appreciated.

[Kkitty99]

Well, up to New Year's Eve try to stretch her out. Ty putting in more fingers each week up to the big night. Trust me, it will still hurt her the first time and I only know because of a dildo. So, the hymn breaking is a process that hurts a girl, it's skin tearing apart. Find her g spot work at that and add in fingers. Also, on the big night... LUBE UP!!! Best of luck to you!

[Eternal Dreamer ♥]

They kind of said it all, it's going to hurt a little no matter what, if you work up to it, so you stretch her out a little more it's less pain in the long ruin, it will still hurt.
Do all the things you mentioned lube, foreplay, and stuff.
It will all work out, you'll fit, it will just be a little hard at first. Take things slow, and gentle.

[Ohsnaphey]

That was my biggest fear so before I was finally ready he would do the add a finger. That whole thing was awkward to me lol but I believe it worked and it didn’t hurt that much (we had some much freaken lube on the condom he just went right on in and I was completely surprised!!).

Just make sure that if it hurts too much for her that you’re willing to stop. You can’t prevent any pain but the fact that you do care is wonderful. But everyone is different so if she’s ready hopefully everything will work out wonderfully and beautifully!

[HealingAngel]

Foreplay a lottt. If she's not really wet it will hurt a lot the first time. Also go slow so that she's calm because if she's not relaxed that will also make it hurt worse. And yes, use multiple fingers before the real deal.

[Jennyjenn1]

Lots of foreplay get a good lube. She should be masturbating even to help herself out in the meantime. She doesn't have to wait for you all the time.

[taylalatbh.]

If it's her first time, or close-ish to her first time then she's going to be a little tight. And the nerves about it could effect that too. Like everyone has said, you need to talk it slow and use some lubricant. If she's aroused and you take it slow, it'll work a lot easier for you. It more than likely is going to hurt for her, but that's normal. You should do a good load of foreplay before hand and don't jump into full-on sex too fast so she's got time to become aroused and 'loosen up' a bit.

Hope I helped!