I had my first kiss yesterday :)

[melol]

It was with this girl (now girlfriend) who apparently everyone knew liked me.. apart from me because I am oblivious to everything. We were both planning on telling each other for the past couple days, and well, now we're together. This is my first ever relationship (im a year older than she is 16&15) and wanted any advice on dating and literally everything that happens in a relationship. Thanks in advance

[Ennui.]

Congratulations! I’m glad you’re in a new relationship with someone you like!

My biggest piece of advice is communication. Use “I statements” like “I feel” versus “you statements” like “you did this wrong,” because “I statements” can make people feel defensive. Communication isn’t all about what is going wrong though, although it is important to share things that are bothering you. It’s also about what’s going right, what is working, and what you feel like you need. Basically communication makes sure that everyone is on the same page and knows what the other person is expecting.

Trust is also important. Make sure both of you can trust one another and feel comfortable when you two are apart. It’s okay and even important to have friends outside the relationship, for example, and you should be able to trust your partner to have friends. If you don’t, it’s important to evaluate why not. That’s just one example of trust.

Also respect one another. It’s okay to disagree about things or have differences in opinions but be respectful.

Don’t change who you are for the relationship. It’s okay to learn and grow as a person, but don’t do things you’re uncomfortable with or do things that go against your morals and values for the other person.

[Corti]

Congratulations! This is really important moment and I am glad you liked it.

Talking about relationships - everyone has its own experience so I want to share mine. Please do not keep silent if something go wrong - learn to tell about your feelings and thoughts. Also do not pretend to be someone else - this is really harmful for you and your relationships.

[roshnikhanna]

Many Congratulations.

[Dawn.]

Congratulations!

The only advice I can give you is to be open and honest with your girlfriend as that is the best communication.

[Rika]

Hello there

Thanks for posting on TeenHelp! I understand that you got your first kiss yesterday and that you're feeling happy about this. It's totally fine to feel oblivious to things as some of us may not understand or get what is being said or relayed.

I also see that you mentioned this is your first relationship. It sounds like you are excited about this, and wish you nothing but the best with this relationship.

Some advice I would give since you asked is to listen to each other. It is important you both listen and hear each other out. If there are ever any issues, please do speak up about it. I too support the "I statements" as Dez mentioned. "I feel" is a perfect example that Dez said.

Respecting each other is one I also think is huge while in a relationship. You both should respect each other and hear each other out. You can disagree on some things or have different views and opinions, but you should both be respectful of this.

Be open and be honest with your girlfriend too.