I miss him and I hate him

[Odyne]

February 2025: My boyfriend breaks up with me after 8 years.
But it wasnt a healthy relationshop.

The first years were the best years of my life.
Then he stopped at his medication and things got bad - he yelled and screamed and destroyed things, and all I could do was to cry and then he got more mad.

These years I hate.
And I miss the good years.

[Dude111]

Im so sorry sweetie.........

[Odyne]

Originally Posted by Dude111

Im so sorry sweetie.........

that’s kind of you

[Face Up.]

What you're feeling is valid. I know it wasn't a healthy relationship but eight years is a long time, especially since the first years were fine. Eight years isn't something easy to move on from where you'll feel okay instantly. I think it's even okay that you remember the good times as long as you don't ignore the fact that after the good times there were unhealthy times as well and that you didn't deserve to be treated like that. I don't think there's a right/wrong amount of time to move past a relationship like this.

[Odyne]

Originally Posted by Face Up.

What you're feeling is valid. I know it wasn't a healthy relationship but eight years is a long time, especially since the first years were fine. Eight years isn't something easy to move on from where you'll feel okay instantly. I think it's even okay that you remember the good times as long as you don't ignore the fact that after the good times there were unhealthy times as well and that you didn't deserve to be treated like that. I don't think there's a right/wrong amount of time to move past a relationship like this.

It’s just hard to remember. Every time someone gets angry or mad, I just start crying.