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But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 12th 2012, 12:35 AM

I am mentally ill. There's no denying this fact, and while I may not be alone as there are millions of others on college campuses, fact is that they likely suffer from a stress-induced depression or some other depressive disorder whereas mine is a trauma disorder that makes it extremely difficult to retain information.. especially in stressful environments. Staying true to all mental illnesses, it renders me with little motivation and energy as well.
With this being said, what's the point of me trying to pay my way through college? Never mind how, but why? I don't really want it. My brain is already full to bursting, and I have more than enough stress. I don't want this to be expected of me. I want to do what I want, not live for the expectations of others. Not having a degree doesn't make me stupid.


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 12th 2012, 01:18 AM

Have you tried taking on-line classes at home? There you can do schooling on your time, you don't have to worry about other people.

I'm taking on-line classes for my college, and I love it being on-line it's so simple.

Not going to college doesn't make you dumb or stupid, you can still get a job and everything.


Look into an on-line college, that might save the stress on you.

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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 12th 2012, 03:12 AM

You're right! Not going to college doesn't make you stupid. It just means...well, you're not going to college! There are plenty of other options out there.

That said...If you find something you really love to do and it requires some college or a college degree, don't let mental illness hold you back. You may even change your mind later in life and get a degree as a personal achievement. Don't let what anyone else says make you feel like you HAVE to do anything. Just remember that the options are out there and don't let anything hold you down.

(If you ever do decide to go to college, I also recommend taking advantage of student services. Most colleges today have a policy of accommodating students with mental illnesses and learning disabilities. I also agree with the online classes comment above.)


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 12th 2012, 05:14 AM

You can certainly go through online colleges to earn your degree but you can only run so far from stressful environments, whether employed, self-employed or not employed. Think what your aspirations are for your future and keep the college door open, even if you don't want to attend right away. You're defined by more than just your mental illness, I'm sure it makes situations tougher but hiding behind it will wear out.


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 12th 2012, 01:59 PM

Also keep in mind that it is totally okay to just wait a few years and attempt college when you are in a better state of mind. There's nothing wrong with being a couple of years older, and you'll be able to handle the stress a lot better, have more life skills and actually know what you want to get out of college. It's much easier to study and work towards something when you have a goal.


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 12th 2012, 05:21 PM

As someone with depression made worse by stress I can tell you that it makes things a lot harder, but it is doable. Most if not all schools have accomodations available for students with disabilities which I believe includes mental illness.

As everyone else has said, look at what you want to do with your future and see what you would need. Online classes are an option, but keep in mind that a lot of times there's more work involved because you basically have to teach yourself the material. You could also delay college until you're more stable or forgo it completely if you don't need it for what you want to do.

It's a decision every person has to make for themselves, you have to find the balance between not overwhelming yourself while not letting your illness hold you back. If you're seeing a professional I would discuss it with them or talk to someone at a potential college to see what's involved. Community college is generally less stressful than a 4 year school and you can decide how many hours to take etc.


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 13th 2012, 12:06 PM

You could try courses you can do from home? I know a few people who do this and they are under no stress as they are working at there own pace and they can go back and re visit units if they don't understand them.
As for the college, well there is help at colleges for you if you decide to take this option.
I get all kinds of support from my college because I struggle in lessons. It helps a lot knowing that you are not dealing with these things on your own and you have someone to fall back on if things get too stressful.
May be something you want to look into before your rule college out all together.
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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 15th 2012, 03:05 AM

Okay, perhaps I should be more specific. I have no desire to go to a uni with dorms and such. I want to go there to hurry up and study, get my degree, and leave. There are absolutely no "experiences" I want from college. I want my degree and then I want to leave and do my own thing. I'm considering the online schooling. It all depends... My home life is crap and I'm not moving away from the only family I have.


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 15th 2012, 03:30 AM

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Okay, perhaps I should be more specific. I have no desire to go to a uni with dorms and such. I want to go there to hurry up and study, get my degree, and leave. There are absolutely no "experiences" I want from college. I want my degree and then I want to leave and do my own thing. I'm considering the online schooling. It all depends... My home life is crap and I'm not moving away from the only family I have.
Ohhh!! Well in that case, I highly recommend online classes! I don't know what options you have where you live, but around here community college is usually the best and most affordable way to start out online. For-profit online programs can be good sometimes, but make sure they are accredited and are reasonably priced. That way, you can go at your own pace, but know that you are working toward a degree that will help you once you are done. (Be wary of programs such as University of Phoenix, Art Institute, ITT Tech, etc. These are not all bad, but in a lot of cases it is a high cost for an average reward.)

Feel free to PM me. I am not an expert but I might be able to answer questions about the online classes experience, etc. Best of luck to you!


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 16th 2012, 10:32 PM

I might... at this point I'm seriously considering just running... It may be best


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 17th 2012, 11:25 PM

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Running? As in, running away?





   
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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 18th 2012, 10:31 PM

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Running? As in, running away?

Ahyup... Unfortunately, yes. I'm slowly losing all that remains of my sanity... I can't take it much longer. I'm not going to make it another year; that's just not possible anymore. I've come close to ending it all this past week and took up self injuring again because I can't take the stress.


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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 18th 2012, 10:51 PM

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Ahyup... Unfortunately, yes. I'm slowly losing all that remains of my sanity... I can't take it much longer. I'm not going to make it another year; that's just not possible anymore. I've come close to ending it all this past week and took up self injuring again because I can't take the stress.
It seems like going to college (or even taking online classes) should be very low on your list of priorities, then. Your mental well-being should ALWAYS come first, because if you're not well, you're not going to be able to accomplish much - at least, not on your own. Are you currently seeing a psychological professional? What do you have as far as support is concerned? You said your home life is crap, but then you said you don't want to move away from the only family you know - so does that mean you're currently living with people who are good or bad for your well-being?

I'll admit that I don't suffer from PTSD or another trauma-related problem, but I have gone through that whole process of deciding whether or not to go to college - twice. It's stressful for anyone, and I can only imagine how much more stressful it is for you. Right now, I really hope that you can re-focus on your mental well-being and forget about all these expectations for a little while. Trust me, it's never too late to go to college... but taking care of yourself is something that can't wait.





   
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Re: But What If I Don't WANT To Go To College? - May 19th 2012, 12:58 AM

I'm seeing a social worker, but that hasn't done much. My home life is crap; my only family is my boyfriend. I don't really know what to think anymore. I'm tired of the anxiety...


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