Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!) As a guest you can submit help requests, create and reply to Forum posts, join our Chat Room and read our range of articles & resources. By registering you will be able to get fully involved in our community and enjoy features such as connect with members worldwide, add friends & send messages, express yourself through a Blog, find others with similar interests in Social Groups, post pictures and links, set up a profile and more! Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!
Games and Things Here you can find popular chit-chat threads like games and surveys.
Note: Posts made in this forum don't contribute towards your post count.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 27th 2012, 02:37 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by trogdor
Girls: why do you all think you're ugly
Okay you keep making a lot of generalizations. Not EVERY girl thinks they're ugly, just as not EVERY guy thinks he's ugly. It goes for both sexes but not every person. Anyways, it depends on the person; some may have low self-esteem. Others may just be doing the obvious & fishing for compliments. As I said, it depends on the person but NOT EVERYONE does that.
Last edited by Jack Lowden; June 27th 2012 at 02:43 AM.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 27th 2012, 03:21 AM
Girls: How important is personality and energy vs. looks?
“At times the world may seem an unfriendly and sinister place,
But believe that there is much more good in it than bad.
All you have to do is look hard enough,
And what might seem to be a series of unfortunate events may in fact be the first steps of a journey.”
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 27th 2012, 05:06 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by trogdor
Girls: why do you all think you're ugly
Barb had a good point. To add on to it, most girls tend to have very low self esteem. The problem is everywhere we look, be it TV or magazines, there are extremely skinny girls as models. So when we look at ourselves and see all of our flaws when we aren't wearing makeup and such, we tend to compare ourselves. That all leads to us feeling like we aren't pretty enough.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneirophobia
Girls: How important is personality and energy vs. looks?
In my opinion, I have to find the guy attractive, but if I don't like his personality or our personalities just don't work well together then I won't date him. So both are important in their own ways, but personality definitely is important, and even more so than looks.
And here you are living, despite it all. Lead Moderator | Disputes Committee | HelpLINK Mentor
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 27th 2012, 05:12 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneirophobia
Girls: How important is personality and energy vs. looks?
It's not really a one or the other kind of thing. Looks don't really matter, but attraction does. Different people are attracted to different things. Me? I like tall skinny guys. I've never seriously dated someone who was under 6ft (unless you count when I was 14, but since then he's grown to be around 6 foot). Don't ask me why, I don't know. I don't plan these kinds of things, it's just what I'm attracted to. I never rejected a guy because he was short, but I've also never gone out of my way to find a short guy. Other people are "chubby chasers" or some look for men older than themselves. Still, others like a certain ethnicity. My best friend likes black guys, but she's also dated white guys.
That being said, personality also matters. I tend to date cute nerdy guys. Like the kind that know how to be social and funny, not the kind who take video games way too seriously and don't shower for weeks because they're too busy playing them. A sense of humor is also good. I really wouldn't date a guy if he was boring either.
Really, you just have to go well together. Sometimes people work together, sometimes they don't. I also find that morals play into this a lot.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 27th 2012, 10:22 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by i_like_black
Guys: How overweight/fat does a female have to be for it to affect how attracted you are to her?
Affecting how attracted I am to her is too stringent a test, I think. There are all sorts of things that will affect how attracted I am to a girl without making her unattractive. In reference to your question, it's nice if a girl has that gap between her thighs, but if she doesn't she can still be hot. Still, there are a few attributes that can send a girl sliding rapidly towards unattractiveness. Rolls or folds when she's standing up or a hanging stomach, for example.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 27th 2012, 10:54 AM
guys: Would you rather make the first move, or have the girl make the first move?
I wanna fly. So I do gymnastics instead.
I'll just keep holding on to what i believe and oh I believe in you. Give me the strength for the fight and the heart to believe cause I've got to believe in you. I feel so alive.
I can't really say for guys your age but I do know guys my age don't really care they care more about personality
Girls: why do you all think you're ugly
We don't.....btw my first relationship was at 14...horrid since the guy was a total jerk to me....oh well...
next question: Why do alot of guys want younger women o.0
Quote:
Originally Posted by Acheron
Affecting how attracted I am to her is too stringent a test, I think. There are all sorts of things that will affect how attracted I am to a girl without making her unattractive. In reference to your question, it's nice if a girl has that gap between her thighs, but if she doesn't she can still be hot. Still, there are a few attributes that can send a girl sliding rapidly towards unattractiveness. Rolls or folds when she's standing up or a hanging stomach, for example.
no offense, same for girls with guys
Last edited by Eternal; June 27th 2012 at 09:54 PM.
Reason: Merged consecutive posts.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 28th 2012, 04:23 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cloud9rainbow
next question: Why do alot of guys want younger women o.0
I think it has a lot to do with status.
Just as some women seek out older husbands (claiming experience, money, social status, and maturity as main reasons) it's seen as something of a status symbol to have a younger wife.
However I do not believe that it's the only thing that factors into a relationship, I do truly believe that there is a degree of love and attraction that factors into a relationship.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 28th 2012, 07:03 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cloud9rainbow
Why do alot of guys want younger women o.0
Along with what was said above, its also just what some people find attractive. I find myself more attracted to guys who are older than me than younger. Honestly I can't really tell you why, but that is a reason why some guys want younger girls.
And here you are living, despite it all. Lead Moderator | Disputes Committee | HelpLINK Mentor
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 28th 2012, 07:24 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cloud9rainbow
next question: Why do alot of guys want younger women o.0
Aside from the whole "older women are less attractive" reason later in life, younger girls are just easier to get. You already have a level of dominance and status over them just by your age. You always want to be able to date the most attractive person you can, and it's a lot easier to date the hottest junior than the hottest senior.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 28th 2012, 09:14 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cloud9rainbow
Are ALL guys really that sexist...o.0 oh well...
I know I'm not a guy, but I'd just like to point out that not ALL guys are sexist. I know many men who call themselves feminists and act like it as well. Generalizations aren't the best way to go about things.
Sorry I couldn't be there, I was tied to a rocking chair.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 28th 2012, 09:21 PM
QUOTE=Apple Orchard Ghost;906905]
I know I'm not a guy, but I'd just like to point out that not ALL guys are sexist. I know many men who call themselves feminists and act like it as well. Generalizations aren't the best way to go about things.[/quote]
I was referring to an older post on this about a question that was answered in a sexist matter. But the attitudes of MOST American males make you wonder....
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 29th 2012, 01:09 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cloud9rainbow
I was referring to an older post on this about a question that was answered in a sexist matter. But the attitudes of MOST American males make you wonder....
Firstly, I am personally unsure of which question you meant. I'm sure if you pointed it out, users could justify their responses.
Secondly "MOST" is not a good sample demographic. I would safely assume that 10% of American Males display truly sexist behaviour, but I would be willing to guess as many as 40% are acused of being sexist over issues that really aren't favoring of one gender or another.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 29th 2012, 01:27 AM
Could we please get back on topic, guys? =) If you want to discuss sexism, you are welcome to create your own thread. This thread is reserved for brief questions and answers, though, not lengthy conversations or debates.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 29th 2012, 03:11 AM
Guys: My bf said he lost his virginity to me because he wanted to wait for the right one. (He lost it at 20) However, I lost my virginity to someone else at age 15 with still regret till this day and was shocked he lost it to me (the non virgin). How could I be the right person if I lost it to someone else before him? :[
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 29th 2012, 06:04 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by SamMarie
Guys: My bf said he lost his virginity to me because he wanted to wait for the right one. (He lost it at 20) However, I lost my virginity to someone else at age 15 with still regret till this day and was shocked he lost it to me (the non virgin). How could I be the right person if I lost it to someone else before him? :[
I know I'm not a guy, but your past doesn't change who you are. He can be madly in love with you and that would make you the right person. Your past shouldn't affect any of it. Just because you lost your virginity to someone else doesn't mean that you two can't be perfect for each other.
And here you are living, despite it all. Lead Moderator | Disputes Committee | HelpLINK Mentor
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
June 30th 2012, 04:22 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bobu
Ok guys- what is the most important part of a relationship to you. Be honest!
Coming from someone who's never been in a relationship before (or on a date even) that is a bit of a complicated issue. For me they have be attractive (by my standards), have a good personality (by my standards) and perhaps most importantly they have to connect with me on a personal basis. Simply having the looks and the personality aren't good enough, they have connect with me as a person and vice-versa. Just my opinion though.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
July 9th 2012, 06:25 AM
Here's my question for the guys;
What goes through your mind after you break it off, with whom you once called your 'true love'? May not be answerable to some, but I'm just really curious.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
July 10th 2012, 12:56 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by haleyv
Here's my question for the guys;
What goes through your mind after you break it off, with whom you once called your 'true love'? May not be answerable to some, but I'm just really curious.
It really depends on why the break up happened. I usually feel bad, wish it could have worked out. Unless the person I broke up with was batshit crazy, then I'm relieved. Ready to move on.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
July 17th 2012, 12:30 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Heartofblackice
next question: Why do alot of guys want younger women o.0
Sometimes it's just the matter of having fun. Also they tend to be "easier to get."
Quote:
Originally Posted by gymnastxxLeah
guys: Would you rather make the first move, or have the girl make the first move?
It probably depends on the guy. I'm a little shy when it comes to dating and whatnot, so I'd rather have the girl make the first move. To me it shows she's interested.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bobu
Ok guys- what is the most important part of a relationship to you. Be honest!
Personality, likes / dislikes (makes it less awkward in conversations with the girl!), and, for me, a little bit on looks. She doesn't have to be supermodel material, but a cute / pretty girl is nice.
Quote:
Originally Posted by haleyv
Here's my question for the guys;
What goes through your mind after you break it off, with whom you once called your 'true love'? May not be answerable to some, but I'm just really curious.
I've never had to break it off personally (I've been the dumpee in the two relationships I've had), but I'd say it depends on the relationship and the reason to be breaking up. Was she crazy? Then I'm relieved. Was she special to me, but I didn't feel anything anymore? I feel bad, but it was for the best. Well, I'd feel bad for breaking up with a girl for any reason in particular.
He initiates conversation with you, not the other way around.
That and he tries to use playful names, an uses lots of smilies in texts.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bobu
Ok guys- what is the most important part of a relationship to you. Be honest!
Appearance and personality.
You have to have both, I won't compromise on either.
Space Flight Awards
Geosynchronous Orbit (Kerbin)
Manned Capsule and return (Kerbin)
Space Station and Docking (Kerbin)
Equatorial/Polar Probe (Mun)
Landing Resulting in the Loss of a Kerbanaut (Mun)
Last edited by Eternal; July 21st 2012 at 02:37 AM.
Reason: Merged consecutive posts.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
July 20th 2012, 10:43 PM
Well, I'm self-admittedly jealous... And it's tough to get over. But one thing to do is to have your boyfriend hang out with some of your male friends. Assuming that goes well, he'll be able to talk to/trust these guys about you. That's what makes me feel the best; when I can trust the guys and girl both. Because it's most likely not you he doesn't trust, but the others; and that's a fixable problem. Go for it~
A question for all the females out there... How do you turn down a guy, even though you actually really like him a lot? I'm in the receiving end of that, with my best friend who's expressed a lot of interest... But she refuses to even consider going out with me. And I don't know why!
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
July 20th 2012, 10:51 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by SnowDust
A question for all the females out there... How do you turn down a guy, even though you actually really like him a lot? I'm in the receiving end of that, with my best friend who's expressed a lot of interest... But she refuses to even consider going out with me. And I don't know why!
If you have a best a friend that shows interest but refuses to go out with you, it could be that she just doesn't want to put the friendship at risk. I know that I have a few of my guy friends where even if I liked them, I wouldn't persue it because I didn't want the mess up the friendship that we have. Now, I have a boyfriend so I would never like them anyway, but if I were in that place, that's why I wouldn't go for it. And have you talked to her about it? Maybe ask her why she's expressing interest but refuses to persue anything more. Talking to her about it will definitely help you understand more. Ask her.
When you can't find your way home,
and when life gets too hard to face on your own.
I will stand as a light through the darkness unknown,
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
July 21st 2012, 08:12 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by SnowDust
A question for all the females out there... How do you turn down a guy, even though you actually really like him a lot? I'm in the receiving end of that, with my best friend who's expressed a lot of interest... But she refuses to even consider going out with me. And I don't know why!
It could be one of many reasons: doesn't want to risk your friendship, timing is bad, isn't allowed to date, etc. If you're that curious, then ask her.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
July 22nd 2012, 09:28 PM
Guys: Do you lose interest in sex with your girlfriend after doing it for awhile and being in a relationship for awhile? Or could it be loss of attraction? Why or why not?
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
August 3rd 2012, 06:45 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by SamMarie
Guys: Do you lose interest in sex with your girlfriend after doing it for awhile and being in a relationship for awhile? Or could it be loss of attraction? Why or why not?
No ;p I've been with my girl for 2 years now & the sex get's better every time (x Sure sometimes I'm not in the mood ;p but for the most part I'm down xD I just never really lost any attraction towards her She has the most Beautiful Smile (;
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
August 3rd 2012, 12:48 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by haleyv
Here's my question for the guys;
What goes through your mind after you break it off, with whom you once called your 'true love'? May not be answerable to some, but I'm just really curious.
Depends on what terms the break up ended on. For me personally, if I were to do the separating from my "one true love", I would mostly be pretty confused. I'm sure my routine would be shattered (as most of my relationships have been very routine), and I wouldn't know what to do with my time. I'd probably spend it diving into University, or picking up my shattered routine with a bender on some video games. Nonetheless, the only thing that would probably be shattered would be my routine - so long as I had lost all feeling for my "one true love".
But honestly, breaking up with someone you once called a true lover would always be difficult, no matter if you did or did not do the separating.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster
How do you know if a guy actually DOES like you?
There's honestly no telltale signs. I display no more emotion or affection towards a girl I like as opposed to a girl I do not. However, it's typical for a guy to be one of three things:
- Nervous;
- Playful/boystrous; and/or
- Flirty.
Obviously, the only way to truly know is to compare his behaviour towards you vis-a-vis his behaviour towards other girls (or asking, of course!).
Quote:
Originally Posted by savealife723
Question for the guys:
My boyfriend is definitely the jealous type.. Is there anything I can do to not make him worry so much about my male friends?
Two things:
- Don't have male friends;
- Reassure him by doing something that proves that he can trust you.
The latter would be more difficult, because it would honestly take one of your guy friends to come onto you, and then you reject him infront of your boyfriend. That's the way I see it, anyway.
Quote:
Originally Posted by SamMarie
Guys: Do you lose interest in sex with your girlfriend after doing it for awhile and being in a relationship for awhile? Or could it be loss of attraction? Why or why not?
I honestly got bored with my last girlfriend. Only because it was the same everytime. Just spice it up a bit.
Despite the fact that it was the same everytime and I did get bored, she is still probably the best I've ever had. So, just because a guy gets bored, does not necessarily mean that he does not find you to be diabolically good in bed.
Last edited by Age of Ignorance; August 3rd 2012 at 12:54 PM.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
August 17th 2012, 11:17 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by LucyLouWho
Sex is important, but certainly not on the top of my list of important things. To be honest, it's probably not even near the top. I feel like as long as I'm in a relationship with someone that I really care about, that's what matters. As long as we can talk to each other, have a good time with each other, and trust one another, that's what matters. But, hey, if the sex is good, that's alright too. :]
And, I know I'm not a guy, but I'm going to give my input anyway.
I think that it really depends on the guy. Some guys are about the sex and do whatever it takes to "get their numbers up". However, that's not always the case. Sometimes things just happen when you're drunk. Other times, you're just not thinking straight and you do things that you'll later regret. OR there are also the times when something is going on in your relationship and you confide in someone about it and one thing leads to another. There are many, many reasons why someone would cheat on their boyfriend/girlfriend. That's not to say that any of the reasons are good enough to justify the cheating, though. No matter how you look at it, cheating is wrong. It can really hurt someone.
Edit- Woops! Forgot my question! For the guys: Describe your dream girl. From personality to beliefs to appearance.
My dream girl is someone who has energy, someone who is unique and ain't afraid to show it. A music lover haha . Looks, the face is reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaally important more than anything and the eyes are essentially everything.
I am abd at this haha.
For the girls, is "bad boy" an attractive style?
“At times the world may seem an unfriendly and sinister place,
But believe that there is much more good in it than bad.
All you have to do is look hard enough,
And what might seem to be a series of unfortunate events may in fact be the first steps of a journey.”
~My Childhood Friend.
Last edited by Eternal; August 20th 2012 at 09:13 PM.
Reason: Merged consecutive posts.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex -
August 18th 2012, 08:53 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneirophobia
For the girls, is "bad boy" an attractive style?
Yes, and no. Yes, because girls like bad boys because they feel like they can "change" them and they like that challenge. And no because some girls just really want a good guy. Question for the guys: What really makes a guy cheat on their girlfriend?