Female Advice Preferred: Dating a guy..

[Forgotten]

Hey girls,

So.. I'm just asking this because I want to clear up some things in my head..

I'm only in 10th grade and I think we all know that at such a stage, there's no real 'relationships', etc.

So I wanted to ask the girls this question...

Would your rather date a really hot and sexually attractive guy who had a horrible personality which you hated, or would you date the not hot guy, with the amazing personality that you love...

Additionally, when you vote, could you please post with your age? I just want to figure out if it's only young teenagers with a certain mentality or everyone.

Thanks.

[SamMarie]

Hey Forgotten,

I'm 16.. turning 17 in September. I would much rather date a mediocre guy with a great personality. Even if the guy was attractive, if his personality was bad, that would automatically make me look at him as ugly. Looks are a perk, but personality is key.

[sheltering.sea]

Originally Posted by Forgotten

Hey girls,

So.. I'm just asking this because I want to clear up some things in my head..

I'm only in 10th grade and I think we all know that at such a stage, there's no real 'relationships', etc.

So I wanted to ask the girls this question...

Would your rather date a really hot and sexually attractive guy who had a horrible personality which you hated, or would you date the not hot guy, with the amazing personality that you love...

Additionally, when you vote, could you please post with your age? I just want to figure out if it's only young teenagers with a certain mentality or everyone.

Thanks.

Actually, there can be "real relationships" at this stage it all depends on the maturity level of the two involved so I suggest you take your relationships seriously when your a junior in high school ( I consider freshman and sophomore year practice), and to answer your question, I would never EVER EVER date anyone with a bad personality, been there, done that FOR 2 YEARS and it was hell on earth (for more info on that check my older posts). To me I don't really think of a guy as mediocre looking, I find beauty in a man who is genuine, honest, and respectful he may not be what other people consider "hot" to their standards but he is beautiful to me and that's all that matters (it has to be inside and out). I'm 17 years old btw going into my last year of high school in august(?) I believe.

[Harmony♥]

Hey there,
I agree with the above poster. I was in the 11th grade when I had my first, serious relationship that lasted for two years. There can be real relationships at that stage, it all depends on the maturity level of yourself and the person you are seeing.

Anyway, I'd date the not hot guy with an amazing personality. Looks aren't everything for me, but someone who can make me laugh with a great personality is what matters to me.

[Pelios]

I picked "Mediocre looking guy with amazing personality"
But I could never date someone I was not physically attracted to at least a little the key word there was "mediocre". Looks will eventually go but if you have a good personality then that's a big plus for me.

[Maloo]

There's no way I could ever date someone with a personality that I hated. There's no point. And I also would see it as using the hot guy for his looks, since you don't like his personality.

[Forgotten]

Interesting to see the replies - thanks.

[Mia.J]

15, turning 16.

I could not date someone whose personality I hated. You fall in love with someone for their personality, looks are just a bonus.

Originally Posted by Forgotten

I'm only in 10th grade and I think we all know that at such a stage, there's no real 'relationships', etc.

Also, just wanted to agree with other people on this. You can have a 'real' relationship at this stage. It just depends on the people involved, maturity levels, etc.

[Kumagoro]

Originally Posted by Mia.J

You fall in love with someone for their personality, looks are just a bonus.

This.

If I liked him as a person, I'd find him attractive anyway.

[Cmblack9871]

Im 15 and I would rather have the guy with the good personality then looks if I cant be happy with someones personality then I cant really be happy. As previous people have said looks are a bonus

[Radzie]

hey there,
I would prefer going out with a non hot guy with a mediocre personality coz looks matter the least. you know what... we usually fall for the looks but they hardly matter in the long run. if you fall for a hot guy, he won't actually care for you or your feelings, fall for the person who loves you for who you are, and then see the miracles that will work out between you two

[Obliviate]

I'm 15 and honestly, looks don't matter if I wanted to date them...

I can look at attractive people and think oooft I'd have him any day.. but yeah hahaha

[Madeleine.Claire]

I'm 15 and in my eyes, when a guy has a good personality it makes him more physically attractive...

I don't know if that's weird or not, but it's true for me

And just a side note..my aunt and uncle met when they were 14 and began a relationship soon after so it all depends on the people, and their maturity level.

[Charisma]

Mediocre looking guy with amazing personality. I'm 17, 18 next month. PersonalityB4looks. <3

[bitesize]

I'm 20, but I've always felt this way. Since I was ten and knew what liking people was. Yeah the hot guy is hot...but what's the point in going out with him if he's an ass?? The reason you get into relationships is because you enjoy spending time with someone. Also even if the mediocre guy is only mediocre looking..if you fall for him enough you'll start to think he's the best-looking guy in the world. So it doesn't really matter anyway. I think the fact that the votes are 27-0 at the moment should tell you all you need to know!!

[Troubled_Heart]

mediocre guy with awesome personality! No point in dating someone you hate, you shouldn't judge people by their looks.

[Jessibug]

Hey I believe that personality is what makes a person beautiful rather than looks.

[facade]

I'm 16, and I also happen to be in 10th grade

As everyone else has said, I would choose the mediocre guy with the great personality over the really hot guy with the not-so-great personality. If I chose the hot guy I wouldn't be able to stand being around him because of his personality. I don't care how hot he may be I would be dying inside every time I would be around him.

[Eternal]

Mediocre because I don't think I could stand dating a guy with a bad personality. As said above, that makes them 'ugly'. More so than the mediocre guy.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

I look at personalities, but good looks aren't bad either. My ex-boyfriend was cute, but not really hot or having all of the ladies after him, but he had a sweet, romantic personality. My boyfriend now has a great personality, although he does have a few things to work on (but don't we all?), but he's also really good looking.

[HealingAngel]

Originally Posted by Mia.J

15, turning 16.

I could not date someone whose personality I hated. You fall in love with someone for their personality, looks are just a bonus.

15, I completely agree with this. I would never date someone I hated. Relationships arent just about looks. Yeah, they help, but you are supposed to care about the person immensely... that's kinda the point.. :/

[Meowwings]

in all honesty, my thing is that i'm very energetic and young who needs someone who can keep up with how fast paced i am. I do need attention and for someone to pay me a bit more attention than a best friend so yeah, a conceded guy is not for me. I'm 17.

[Fictional]

I'm fifteen going on sixteen, and I wouldn't want to date someone hugely attractive, I'd feel intimidated. Looks play a part in it, but the important thing is to date somebody that you like =)

[razors_and_rosary]

I've honestly never met someone with a horrible personality that I've found attractive. Maybe this is because I'm a good reader of emotions, and horrible people tend to have ugly feelings.

I consider there to be three types of attraction, sexual, physical and emotional. The emotional attraction is what turns a crush into a relationship. It has to be there, simple as. Of course, what people view as a bad personality is subjective. This is something you have to take into account when looking at people's answers.

For me, the following traits are attractive: considerate, empathic, gentle, witty, reasonable, sensible, open-minded. Physical attraction follows from that, and sexual is unrelated to both and must be governed by the conscience...anyway, I'm not getting pseudo-psychological on you.

Attractive people are nice, at least in part. End of

(I notice the single person that voted Hot But Horrible has not posted...)

[Lifeblood]

I'm 15, and I'm with a boy who isn't...incredible looking tbh, I find him attractive but that's only because I'm influenced by the attraction I feel to his personality...I've put that really badly but I mean, a great personality can make someone who isn't classically attractive or 'your type' attractive to you, because you like them. Well that's my opinion anyway
So basically I share the common opinion-personality before looks

[chook14]

I'm 19 and voted for Mediocre looking guy with amazing personality! Sure, initially I'm more physically attracted to the hot guy, but upon finding out how douchey he is he immediately seems less attractive! And it goes the other way...I might not be attracted to a guy straight away, but when I realise how funny, clever, nice he is he somehow starts looking hotter and hotter funny how these things work! xx

[L'espoir]

Yeah. I'd go for the personality every time..... I wouldnt go out with someone I found quite ugly though because I just wouldnt be attracted to them and even though personality is the most important, if im not attracted to him it's not gonna work out

[*CatchingStars*]

hey im also in 10th grade and im 17 and i choose mediocre guy

[Spellbound]

I would choose the mediocre looking guy with the amazing personality. A good personality, to me, makes a person attractive. If I think someone is really hot but then discover that they have a bad personality, it makes them unattractive to me.
In the end, the packaging may be pretty, but it's what's inside that matters most.

[blumemusik♫]

I'm 15, and if I didn't like their personality, I wouldn't be at all interested, no matter how good looking they were!

[PSY]

I'm 22, and I refused to choose either option in your poll. I wouldn't date someone with zero personality, but I wouldn't date someone with zero physical attractiveness, either. I think younger individuals sometimes feel they need to choose between the two, just as they may feel you need to choose between the "nice guy" and the "arrogant jerk", the "girl next door" or the "heart-breaking slut". Why on Earth can't we agree that it's perfectly possible to find a balance between the two? =P Someone who is average-to-moderately-attractive, AND has a likeable personality? THAT'S the kind of man I look for, and believe me, there are plenty of them.

[Evanesco]

Nice guy over horrible guy, regardless of what they look like.

[breezie]

maybe you shouldnt date eather. if the hot guys a jerk hes not good anough and if your not totaly into the nice guy then dont settle.

[Tirevo92]

I may be almost 19 now but i can tell you i would have picked mediocre back in 10th grade too

[Sythan]

I don't care about their looks, it's the personality I want in a person.

[Coffee.]

Well, I put of the two which I would rather, which is an amazing personality!
However, my boyfriend is very handsome and has a great personality... I just got lucky.

[becklynn]

I would definitely not date a guy if he didn't have a good personality but a guy's looks is what catches my eye when I first meet them. I would have to be at least a little attracted to them.

[Anomaly]

Personality is what I look for. If they don't have that then there wouldn't be any connection. Looks aren't really important to me. But also if I didn't have any physical attraction towards them at all it wouldn't work out either.