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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - July 18th 2022, 12:38 PM

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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - July 18th 2022, 10:28 PM

I have no reason to turn this down, and in the crazy long interview, you were already talking about eventually promoting me to practically management. But, there are some not so great things about it; not including the pay cut.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - July 24th 2022, 08:29 AM

Every once in a while, like now, I miss immensely the benefits you forced me to give up. Not the fact that I had to, or even the way I did it, because I really had no choice. But, I loved the job itself, everyone else loved me and made it known, the pay and benefits were unmatched, and I'll be explaining why I quit without notice for what feels like the rest of my life. And all because you decided to hate me for no reason to the point of forcing my hand and leaving me screwed, even after I managed to get away. Because, I can never go back to the company with the amazing pay and benefits, and that also keeps me from getting another job. But I really had no choice. Almost 5 years as one of your best employees and it had to end that way because you could get away with being a total bitch.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - July 28th 2022, 07:03 AM

I miss you, and you've probably already forgotten me. You wanted to know when my last day would be and it just happened.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - August 2nd 2022, 02:44 AM

Not personal my ass. You wanted me gone for no reason the second you walked in the door and left me with no choice. I'll believe it was nothing I did, but it was personal, intentional and f***ed up.

I have no problem never working for you. That's what you get for being desperate and it was for part-time receptionist, it's not rocket science. There was no need to nitpick the s*** out of my application. I spent 15 minutes with you and I totally understand why people hate you.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - August 9th 2022, 02:09 AM

I would love to know what your thought process was, just because I'm curious.

If there was an issue with my position after the restructuring, you could've just told me instead of creating a job you knew I would jump on, giving me BS excuses for denying me 3 times, and then forcing me to quit without notice after a second BS performance review. If it was because of my disability which had clearly NEVER caused a problem, then you're just ablest and I don't want to work for you anyway. That's the only reason I can think of that you wouldn't want to tell me what your issue was. But, since so many of my long-time coworkers went before me, and the rest freely blamed you for them being miserable, I doubt that was it.

I'm sorry your life is so miserable that you'll spend that much time and effort to ruin my standing with the company through no fault of my own, but I also kind of love the fact that you were that obsessed with me. I'm also sorry if you were jealous that I was a good employee with a great reputation, while you were blamed for the downfall of the store because you suck at your job. But, that doesn't make what you did okay, even if you got away with it.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - August 23rd 2022, 09:24 PM

He's AMAZING at his job, I know that from one interaction that lasted about 15 minutes. Make sure to keep him. Also, your directions are INCREDIBLE. I wish everybody gave me that much detail.

I can't tell how they go anymore, but it's not my fault if your questions aren't good.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - August 28th 2022, 06:52 AM

I usually have SOME idea as to what is going on or how to help, but I really think this is more of a "You need to parent your child, stop expecting medications to work miracles, and don't expect a 9 year old to act or react like an adult" issue.

If it's really happening this time, it sucks that you forced me out first. But, I'll still be fine and you're finally getting what you deserve.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - September 13th 2022, 02:26 AM

That is total BS and we all saw right through it. You all need to grow up and stop being so F***ing selfish

I guess I burned that bridge after all, which is what I expected. But, why put so much effort into lying to me then?


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - September 25th 2022, 12:17 AM

I plan to tell the truth. Even if it takes longer to get another job because it looks bad, that's just one more way the system is f***ed up. Because I'm still the better person. You admitted I did nothing wrong, victim-blamed me, gaslit me, and didn't even have the courage to look me in the eye as you stabbed me in the back. Meanwhile, I did nothing wrong, stood up to you, and got away. I wasn't worth a conversation after 5 years, so you weren't worth notice. And a good manager will see that, and this situation for what it is.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - September 28th 2022, 10:35 PM

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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - September 29th 2022, 10:49 PM

tomorrow is the last day of September and you haven't paid me back based on our 6 months plan and I'm getting worried. I know you said you care about our friendship and will make sure I'm paid back but I'm struggling so much right now and I don't want this to be a problem in our friendship. I don't know what the right answer is.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - October 5th 2022, 08:05 AM

People like you are the reason I turned notifications off. You are a fucking idiot who needs to stop moral-policing the internet.

You need to let her BREATHE. If you spent your entire day in therapy with your dad telling you how to do every little thing and correcting your every move, you'd get frustrated too.

I'm torn between checking in, waiting, and continuing to look like I haven't been hired. This is ridiculous and I'm not sure it's worth it to hold off for.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - October 12th 2022, 05:58 AM

You aren't necessarily any better than the people you spend your life trying to "take down" If people find them through you, then you're helping, not hurting them, by bringing attention to it, you're exploiting them too. And the unnecessary character assassination combined with the fact that you CONSTANTLY GET BASIC FACTS WRONG completely destroys your credibility. And you condone it. Just because someone is fat, doesn't mean they're a horrible person or bad parent. Just because you have managed to lose weight (through SURGERY) doesn't make you superior to them either.

I never wanted this, and I'll never know why you wanted rid of me so badly or why you went through so much hassle when you didn't have to. The pay cut and loss of benefits sucks, but being away from your toxic attitude makes it worth it somehow. Even if I don't stay long, at least I got away from you and your pettiness and I know that I literally did NOTHING WRONG


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - October 16th 2022, 04:04 AM

It was obviously done on purpose. So, is this yet another red flag that you screw up payroll, or am I missing something? I mean, I know you can't take money back, so I'll see if it happens again I guess.

I've lost track of who's staying. I don't think you are, and I'll be sad. I'll have to watch this because I know I have a tendency to over attach, and I can already feel it happening.

Your voice is eerily identical to his, so I think it's only a matter of time until I call you the wrong name. THOMAS, your name is THOMAS


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - October 16th 2022, 03:29 PM

Never before had I imagined how fucking hard breaking up with somebody could be. Well, now thanks to you I know. I want to break up but I can't.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - October 20th 2022, 02:14 AM

If you're going to be that strict with everyone under you about breaks, then you should really stay off your phone. It looks bad. I don't mind coworkers with authority, but I mind if they're hypocritical and condescending and it goes unchecked... Mike, keep an eye on this, or you'll hear about it because I won't put up with it.

No, she is an adult and they are expecting her to act like one. Interesting you responded to that and not the very valid suggestion I made. I've lived this lady, I know A LOT better than you do how it is. It isn't a law school's job to babysit a 25 year old because she has a mental illness. I never thought I'd be one who says something like this, but if she can't handle it, then she probably shouldn't be there. How is she going to get along in the real world if she can't even send an email to someone to enact her accommodations?! This is ultimately HER responsibility.

So, you go ahead and file complaints and try all the things. But, I lived that too. And when it doesn't go the way you want, who are you going to blame?! Get mad at me for saying it all you want. But DON'T tell me what living with this is like.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - October 31st 2022, 12:31 AM

I've literally been through it all.
Been gaslit
Been backstabbed
Had my reputation destroyed with lies
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Been told only bad things until I almost killed myself
Been told I would damage people by existing in their presence
Been made to believe my disability made me broken
Been told I would never be good enough
Been told it's all my own fault

So, excuse me if I have no realistic frame of reference whatsoever for my capabilities or performance in a job I've never done before.

I don't think I've been more frustrated with my own brain in my life, and I KNOW it's getting on your nerves, even if you never show it. But, it's not going as well as you're saying. It can't be, and if I believe it is, I'm only going to be blindsided. So, I'm going to keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, hope your personalities don't do a 180 the second we open, and try to let the good things you're telling me heal some of this that I thought I was over..


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - October 31st 2022, 11:52 PM

It is and has ALWAYS been more than anxiety. I need you to get that through your head!


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - November 4th 2022, 04:03 PM

What part of "I did not train at the other store, I don't know how to do something I haven't been shown." are you not understanding?!


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - November 4th 2022, 05:19 PM

How the hell can I do the job correctly if there's absolutely no communication and a complete lack of training?
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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - November 13th 2022, 04:45 AM

You can't give me a hard time about not learning everything if you don't make sure I TRAIN in everything. If it comes back up that I was never cross trained, it's your fault, not mine. And, I established that your accusations of my "refusal" to do so were total bullshit, so if you don't train me, you can't complain.

I'm a night owl, but I hate closing. We can't just go home, we have to recover the whole store first and then wait for a manager (sometimes with what is probably ADHD), to let us out at least 15-30 minutes later after a 7+ hour shift. It's exhausting.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - November 13th 2022, 08:40 PM

I still consider you condescending. Maybe it's me, but at least I don't have to like you. OMG STOP SITTING ON ME. If you don't like the way I do my job, then do it yourself or stop whining.

I swear to God, if everything I do is wrong, then I'm going to stop doing everything. You don't pay enough for me to put up with the constant complaining.

On second thought, I'm fine with you leaving. Don't bark orders. What part of "Give me a task I know how to do and leave me the fuck alone" are people not getting?!


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - November 17th 2022, 11:01 PM

Stop extending her 2 weeks, you're the only one who likes her. The rest of us can't wait until she's gone.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - November 22nd 2022, 05:48 AM

As much as I hate closing with you, I hope I see you tomorrow. A short shift with a late start the next day would be the best day for it.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - November 25th 2022, 02:46 AM

My best guess is that you're throwing a tantrum like you've done my whole life, coming up with some bullshit story about how you're a victim instead of being an adult and contacting me like you've done on every single holiday for (again) my whole life. Being a parent/adult means showing up for your kid regardless of how you currently feel. I'm not sorry you're upset. This was a direct result of your behavior over decades and a refusal to respond when confronted. I'm not sorry for having and holding boundaries, but I didn't expect it to still hurt. I've gone from "wondering" if you'll do what you've always done, to facing the reality that you won't. And now I have to decide what that means.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - November 26th 2022, 03:42 AM

You deserved the apology this time, but I still say that day was uncalled for. You either need to increase staff or decrease expectations to reasonable and back off. And I'm still not sure it's worth putting up with for the pay. It "didn't look like it had been done at all" because it was the busiest day of the year and I was the ONLY one on the floor for hours. But, immediately it was implied that I hadn't done enough, fast enough, or wrong. I've cried twice in 3 weeks and it feels like a sign.

I want to bring this up, but I probably shouldn't. It's pointing to a me issue, which it isn't your job to deal with, even if you could do something.
I hate being paranoid.
I hate being triggered and dealing with shit I thought I had dealt with years ago.
I hate that part of me wants you to do something about it. You can't. And you're dealing with enough, the last thing you need is me whining
I hate that I've been blindsided so many times, that no amount of reassurance would help
Maybe this is exactly where I'm supposed to be. Because I need to deal with this again
Or, maybe it's a sign that I don't belong
And, maybe I don't want to have this conversation, because I'm afraid of what your answer will be


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 1st 2022, 09:16 PM

You know I'm the only one on the floor. Either schedule better, lower expectations to reasonable, or fucking chill. I can do one thing at a time!

I really hope I didn't overhear what I think I did. I would hope if you were going to talk about me within earshot, you would respect me enough to say shit to my face. But, if I did, its fine with me. Bye

That seemed like a "Google it yourself kind of question" but I'm sure I'll end up blamed for that

You are WAY too forgiving. If she wants tocut you off and avoidyou for this, then you do the same. No offers of favors for the kids, no extra presents just because you always have. It sucks, but it was her decision because she wants to be selfish and immature.

No new hires, issues with my attitude, and threats of firing people over insubordination. I know my value, if you don't see it, I don't have to stay. If you can't afford to lose people, then you can't afford to micromanage the shit out of them.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 3rd 2022, 12:58 PM

wouldn't it be better to just part ways?


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 4th 2022, 09:36 PM

Have fun doing price checks every 2 minutes then. I hope he tells me to go ahead or that you get to do all of them yourself since its your fault. Nothing is ever right for you people And yes, after you left, I did more just to spite you, but not enough that you'll notice.

I was thinking I hope she was one you didn't want to hire, but then I remembered it was the two of you that made me cry. If I overheard what I think I did, and even if I didn't, I'll more than likely quit before she does. I'm not even sure I want the full-time anymore, and I don't think I have a realistic shot at it anyway or honestly if it's even still available. Because if it's not that's a hell of a bait and switch which alone is enough for 2 weeks notice.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 10th 2022, 04:30 AM

They overlap because they DON'T FIT and you made us CRAM them in there. You can't have it both ways


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 10th 2022, 07:31 PM

ugh why do i have to take care of EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 12th 2022, 05:05 AM

Every shift, you make me want to quit, question what I'm even good for there, and remind myself the pay isn't worth it. Every time my name comes out of your mouth, my first thought is "What the fuck now?!" I'm too slow, too quiet, with too much of an attitude, nothing I do is ever right, and everything is my fault. But, you're still super sweet as a person, so I try to put up with it, but less than 3 months in and I feel like the writing is on the wall already. I know what my first review is going to say before it's written, I'm pretty sure I overheard her tell him I "wasn't going to work out.", and it's been red flags from the word go. I wonder if I'm being too sensitive, or if I'm actually right. He's dealing with enough, I don't want to bother him with this, and if I bring it up with you, it's going to come out wrong (see above attitude) And at the same time you all seem to like me and tell me not to be paranoid. I don't know what to believe anymore, but history tells me the negative is probably closer to the truth.

I know the last thing you need is for me to complain again, but this is so ridiculous I don't have words for it, and I respect you enough to discuss it with you and give you a chance to do something.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 15th 2022, 02:21 AM

You were either a therapist in a former life, or you've been through something incredibly traumatic that's none of my business. I'm relying on a trauma response/survival mechanism and trying to be as minimal a pain in the ass as possible. But, I'll try not to blindside you so much without constantly coming to you with everything. Because, you can say it's fine all you want, I can't trust it.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 19th 2022, 08:05 AM

I know you worked with him for years and that all of this is new to all of you. But, those aren't excuses; this is common sense. You don't drown 4 people by leaving them to handle the entire store on a Sunday, then cut hours by 2/3 overnight, while BEGGING for new hires, and not expect people to get mad. They're going to create an impossible situation and place impossible expectations on us and people will stop putting up with it. He can be (and is) one of the most amazing people on the planet, but loving your manager doesn't pay your bills or magically make you capable of managing unreasonable expectations.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 19th 2022, 06:21 PM

Even though it broke me, I held you until it was time to let you go. I hope you knew how loved you were. I’m so sorry I couldn’t save you
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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 21st 2022, 10:05 PM

I didn't pick up a shift because

A: I've worked 5 days straight (for one day off) and going in would've made it 8

B: The fact that you can't seem to schedule people appropriately, and that we can't get new hires isn't my problem

C: Maybe this will make you appreciate me a little more. If you want to complain literally every time I do something, watch what happens when I'm not there at all. Because I always have the option to leave, and some of you seem to forget that.

Call me in next week when I'm barely scheduled, and we'll talk.

I overheard and its none of my business, but I'm sorry you won't get to see them when you thought you would. And I hope its not because of anything bad.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - December 25th 2022, 01:29 AM

I find it really interesting that after everything you put ME through, you're the one who cut ties, and THAT was the last straw. I'm completely fine with it, I almost did it myself after all. It's sad that I was the adult in the interactions, but it is what it is. I set a boundary, you threw a tantrum. That's your pattern and I'm over it. If that's how you want to live your life, then so be it, but I won't be a part of it.

I hope you're open tomorrow, take my new insurance (it shows you do), and that I can get in within a reasonable timeframe. Every time I realize I need to call for an appointment, you're hours past closed.


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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - January 3rd 2023, 11:43 PM

I miss every single one of you!
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Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. - January 4th 2023, 07:09 PM

I wish you could feel what I feel.


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