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Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction October 20th 2017, 03:18 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 2,690
Posted By del677
Re: About sex and alcohol

It makes total sense. Though it's two separate issues.

Sex is normal. We're designed to crave it, both men and women.

Alcohol is a common problem. It's fairly well understood now. Apparently...
Forum: Sex and Puberty October 19th 2017, 08:46 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,108
Posted By del677
Re: Is missing ur period bad?

if you tell your parents, (assuming they don't already know, parents have a way of knowing their children very well, they may already know), if you tell them, they may want to know what should they...
Forum: Rape and Abuse October 18th 2017, 10:06 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 3,202
Posted By del677
Re: Getting therapy for past abuse/rape

Talking with a male counselor may ultimately help normalize the experience.

As in sure you could talk with a female, but you'd still not be comfortable talking with a male.

This way, if you...
Forum: Relationships and Dating October 15th 2017, 04:39 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 1,927
Posted By del677
Re: How do i convince my Girlfriend that i didn't cheat?

I had a girlfriend like that once.

The relationship ran its course and ended. It was good while it lasted.

The relationship helped prepare me for the next relationship which was much better.
...
Forum: LGBTQ+, Sexuality and Gender Identity October 13th 2017, 07:04 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,754
Posted By del677
Re: How do I come out to my friends as trans?

When my sister became my brother, there was a transition period where I had to get used to saying "he" instead of "she".

It took a while. I'd often slip and say "her" instead of "him". I just kept...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress October 9th 2017, 08:43 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 5,407
Posted By del677
Re: Social anxiety affecting me

I fully understand.

I've done the same thing in the past.

The bathroom Yes! and I've read that is very common for introverts.

Plus the ruminating after a conversation, replaying it, as if I...
Forum: Friends and Family October 6th 2017, 05:57 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 3,126
Posted By del677
Re: I’m 18 and want a sex toy and I want to ask my parents

Just walk in to your local toy sex shop and buy it. They love customers. Surprisingly friendly people work there.
Forum: Education and Careers September 23rd 2017, 06:33 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 4,803
Posted By del677
Re: School.

Thank you for your story.

Stress will do that.

Do you also have difficulty looking at other people in their eyes?

From your description it could be some form of autism. Or Asperger's. Only...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress September 20th 2017, 09:11 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 5,392
Posted By del677
Re: Hurting myself because of Anxiety

I found Mindfulness Meditation to be helpful.

A guided meditation with a good teacher in a small group can be very restful.

Can also do meditation at home. There are guided meditations you can...
Forum: Education and Careers September 16th 2017, 06:09 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 2,225
Posted By del677
Re: realllly nervous about school starting

I found college students were much better than high school students. They're slightly older, more mature, and only the smart people go on to college.

I had a much better time in college. Much...
Forum: Relationships and Dating September 16th 2017, 08:18 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 1,801
Posted By del677
Re: i need to help my girlfriend

Thank you for being there for her.

Give her hope that she won't have to live like this forever.

There is hope if she goes to a doctor the doctor can treat the underlying problem and she'll feel...
Forum: Education and Careers September 14th 2017, 06:53 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 5,907
Posted By del677
Re: Want to take a Break from College

I took less than a full load in college. I knew how much I could handle, and I did that, and it worked out well.

I liked having college classes to go to. It helped structure my days and I think...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress September 9th 2017, 05:06 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 5,102
Posted By del677
Re: Anxiety with people

How did your first week go?

Fascinating you identify as a geek (I do too, same problem), and there tend to be more male than female geeks, and you're in a class of 30 with only 5 males!

So the...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress September 7th 2017, 05:59 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 5,102
Posted By del677
Re: Anxiety with people

Moving can be very stressful.

Moving to any new area, like a new school, can be stressful, as the mind isn't used to it yet, and may be on guard.

Being stressed shuts down the socializing part...
Forum: Friends and Family September 2nd 2017, 08:34 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 4,445
Posted By del677
Re: How to tell my parents?

wolf whistle!

(Sorry I found that humorous! I can't believe he did that! At 2am! Oh what fun...)

Thank you for the story. If I understand correctly, the problem isn't with your new boyfriend...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress August 30th 2017, 09:35 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 4,895
Posted By del677
Re: Anxiety question.

I just suffer and wait.

Ride it out.

I try to occupy my mind with something else. If I'm not thinking about it, it hurts me less.

Or the opposite, find someone to talk to.

I'm never sure...
Forum: Eating Disorders August 28th 2017, 09:37 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 6,665
Posted By del677
Re: Do I have an eating disorder?

Thank you for that info. I did not know that. I like the baking soda rinse idea.
Forum: Self Harm August 28th 2017, 09:12 AM
Replies: 247
Views: 19,485
Posted By del677
Re: How are you beating self harm? Vol 2

I need exercise. I was supposed to go walking today with a friend, but the friend coped out on me, and we didn't go walking. We're both depressed and just wanted to lay down. I need to walk. Walking...
Forum: Eating Disorders August 27th 2017, 06:54 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 6,665
Posted By del677
Re: Do I have an eating disorder?

I'm not sure if it counts as bulimia, or if there's a related word that fits better.

But yea it's a common symptom of an underlying problem, and we want to focus on curing the underlying problem...
Forum: Relationships and Dating August 19th 2017, 07:53 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 1,721
Posted By del677
Re: Crush on a friend (but she has a boyfriend!)

You're overthinking this.

Try some meditation, where you learn to focus on yourself and the present moment and just focus on your breathing. The trick is to activate the Parasympathetic Nervous...
Forum: Education and Careers August 18th 2017, 08:54 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 5,683
Posted By del677
Re: What would you look for in a school club related to disabilities?

Best wishes! I do hope this club idea works! Sounds like it could help a lot of people.

One suggestion to help keep order is to have some guidelines on how we expect people to behave which you go...
Forum: General Health August 18th 2017, 08:44 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 2,879
Posted By del677
Re: How hard is it to wean off your medication?

Any doctor can prescribe any medication.

Now that you've found the medication that works for you, can you just go to an inexpensive doctor, like your regular general purpose doctor, and have him...
Forum: Education and Careers August 15th 2017, 07:50 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 5,683
Posted By del677
Re: What would you look for in a school club related to disabilities?

Thank you for doing this leading a club! That's a great idea!

Yes retaining enough members to keep the club going is an issue. I tried running a support group but the size dwindled until there was...
Forum: General Health August 13th 2017, 09:05 AM
Replies: 4
Triggering (Suicide): My medication is making it worse
Views: 2,624
Posted By del677
Re: My medication is making it worse

Thank you for reaching out.

I understand because I've been there.

Other people don't understand if they've had no experience with it. They try and make sense of it, and they may come up with...
Forum: General Health August 2nd 2017, 06:59 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 2,648
Posted By del677
Re: Medication question(Want your experiences too :)

My personal experience is, a lot of them don't work, but when you find the one that does work, it's definitely the medication, and not a placebo effect. It's also a game changer, like I finally found...
Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction July 25th 2017, 06:37 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 7,235
Posted By del677
Re: Grinding my Teeth

I go to the orthodontist and for fifty cents they have a U shaped "Therapy Wafer" I keep in my mouth, especially at night. prevents me from clenching my teeth while I sleep. I can also use it during...
Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction July 8th 2017, 06:02 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 5,005
Posted By del677
Re: Porn Addiction...

Well you're 13 so I think it's normal.

But the anxiety part I see as a separate problem, and possibly a much more important problem to focus on. If I understand correctly this is social anxiety,...
Forum: Pregnancy and Childcare July 2nd 2017, 07:26 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 6,040
Posted By del677
Re: I'm pregnant...

Thank you for sharing.

It happens. You're not the first to have this happen.

It's happened before, and people choose to go both ways, and either way they choose, it turns out OK.

It turns...
Forum: Depression and Suicide June 14th 2017, 06:49 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 1,708
Posted By del677
Re: I can't do anything about my depression

I'm sorry you can't go to the school counselor. They're supposed to be the ones especially trained best to be there specifically for you, because they know students like you are out there, and they...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress June 12th 2017, 08:35 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,832
Posted By del677
Re: turns out it IS socil anxiety !!

Thank you for the kind reply.

May I ask a question? I'm hazarding a guess at which of the 4 basic personality types you might identify with, and I'm guessing it might be the "Idealist" personality...
Forum: Sex and Puberty June 12th 2017, 05:31 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,782
Posted By del677
Re: My period is late... Just got off my BC almost 2 months ago.

Have you considered other forms of birth control?
Forum: Anxiety and Stress June 11th 2017, 06:25 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,832
Posted By del677
Re: turns out it IS socil anxiety !!

Thank you for the wonderful explanation. I greatly appreciate it.

I do understand the part about the difference between having a problem and being the problem.

(I recently told a friend...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress June 3rd 2017, 07:26 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 3,057
Posted By del677
Re: Anxiety about being recorded

Well he won't be contacting you if that's what your fear is.

He's probably already moved on to the next woman.

A little positive human contact with a friend, or friends, or a group, doing...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress June 2nd 2017, 06:27 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 3,057
Posted By del677
Re: Anxiety about being recorded

Congratulations for having the courage to ask him to delete the video.

I'm glad he was cool about it.

Most guys are just happy to get laid.

Plus he was kind enough to ask in advance if it...
Forum: Friends and Family May 31st 2017, 02:53 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 1,852
Posted By del677
Re: How to convince my parents (mainly my controlling father) to let me go abroad?

Thank you for posting.

I see you come from a very religious conservative Muslim family, and that seems to be the indicator of all the problems. Not the Muslim part, or the religious part, it's the...
Forum: General Health May 27th 2017, 08:35 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 2,861
Posted By del677
Re: Trouble taking medication

Perhaps the doctor can give you an injection instead.

Or perhaps there's a clinic you can go to where they can administer the medication to you every day. Even if it's in pill form, the act of...
Forum: General Health May 27th 2017, 08:23 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 2,841
Posted By del677
Re: Seeing a doctor without a parent?

What I've seen work in the past, is if you can find any adult who's old enough to pass as a parent or grandparent or relative, and get that adult to bring the minor in and just act as if this is...
Forum: Friends and Family May 22nd 2017, 06:40 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 4,617
Posted By del677
Re: help! my parents found out about my drug abuse!

What would you like your parents to do? (Assuming you could have any wish.)
Forum: Relationships and Dating May 21st 2017, 06:19 AM
Replies: 25
Views: 4,014
Posted By del677
Re: New Boyfriend

Condoms are really long. Ask someone to get you some and play with them. Become familiar with them. (You'll eventually need to become familiar with them anyway.)

Think of everyone you know. Quite...
Forum: Relationships and Dating May 20th 2017, 06:26 AM
Replies: 9
Male Advice Preferred: my boyfriend is moving away...
Views: 1,882
Posted By del677
Re: my boyfriend is moving away...

Have a really, really good time with him now!

Then, have a good time without him.

Then, when he returns, have a good time.

Enjoy life always. Whatever is meant to be will be. Allow it to be...
Forum: Loneliness May 14th 2017, 06:31 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 1,956
Posted By del677
Re: Lonely

I've been there! Surrounded by hundreds of people and so alone -- because I didn't know how to connect with any of them.

That made me anxious to be there, like I just wanted to hide, which was...
Forum: Relationships and Dating May 14th 2017, 05:56 AM
Replies: 25
Views: 4,014
Posted By del677
Re: New Boyfriend

Look for some MAGNUM XL condoms.

You can also look on Amazon.com for this book:

How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations, and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much by Jacob, Dr. Richard,...
Forum: Relationships and Dating May 13th 2017, 09:16 AM
Replies: 25
Views: 4,014
Posted By del677
Re: New Boyfriend

Get yourself some birth control hon.

No sex without birth control.

If you don't want to get the birth control then make him go get it.

If he doesn't want to get the birth control then his...
Forum: Depression and Suicide May 12th 2017, 05:30 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 1,775
Posted By del677
Re: trigering for a lot of fresaons probably (depression, substance, SH, suicide)

Thank you for posting.

I hope you can find some support somewhere. Someone else who understands who can guide you.

There are a lot of us out there who understand. More than I once imagined.
...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress May 2nd 2017, 09:27 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 2,580
Posted By del677
Re: Teacher giving everyone bad anxiety

That's a tough one to negotiate.

It might be possible to get an adult on your side who's good at this type of negotiation.

I know a few tricks I've read how a former FBI agent learned to...
Forum: Education and Careers May 1st 2017, 07:57 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 2,050
Posted By del677
Re: Customers at work make me feel worse

I understand that psychologists, counselors, and psychiatrists, all have their own support groups and counselors they go to in order to keep themselves sane. Makes sense since they listen to...
Forum: General Health April 30th 2017, 07:51 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,708
Posted By del677
Re: Can I drive if I'm taking medication?

Yes you can still drive with just about any prescription medication and just about any diagnosis.

Heck I've been diagnosed with all sorts of things, and I've taken just about every medication...
Forum: Relationships and Dating April 14th 2017, 06:25 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 1,738
Posted By del677
Re: Sex crazy boyfriend

True intimacy is focusing on both your needs/wants/desires and the other person's needs/wants/desires. Each person should do both.

It sounds like your boyfriend is only focusing on his own...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress April 13th 2017, 08:45 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 3,223
Posted By del677
Re: Anxiety about being connected.

I too have unfriended friends on FB who tended to post things on subjects I desire to avoid. Not because I don't like the person, I just get upset by topics they tend to post.

For anxiety I've...
Forum: Relationships and Dating April 7th 2017, 06:35 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 2,329
Posted By del677
Re: I don't think my boyfriend finds me attractive

Maybe he masturbates too much and needs to cut back on that when he's expecting to be with you in a few days.

It's probably more psychological on his part. I understand how the first thought could...
Forum: Relationships and Dating March 27th 2017, 07:15 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 4,665
Posted By del677
Re: my boyfriend seems happy only when on MDMA

Sorry stress is really bad. Anything (besides drugs) that can reduce the stress would be very helpful. Reducing school work, as in take one less class, if that helps. Taking slightly longer to...
Forum: Rape and Abuse March 25th 2017, 09:48 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 2,963
Posted By del677
Re: Not exactly rape or abuse but-

It's normal for people to develop their own personal boundaries as they grow up.

We start out as helpless babies who need the security and comfort of others to satisfy our needs, and there can be...
Forum: Self Harm March 21st 2017, 07:18 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 2,805
Posted By del677
Re: Advice on therapy/counselling? (Self-harm, substance abuse, suicidal thoughts)

Counselors love a client who is honest like you want to be.

Drug use is common among college age students. Counselors are used to it. They hear it all the time. It's usually just a symptom of...
Forum: Self Harm March 13th 2017, 06:28 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,897
Posted By del677
Re: School, Suicide & Self Harm

Thank you for writing. I appreciate your candor.

Was it a surprise about your grandfather? Or had you known for a long time that he was super depresssed?

Depression can run in families, which...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress March 9th 2017, 07:27 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 3,288
Posted By del677
Re: Anxiety came back

There's something called Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) you could try.

The basic idea is to force the brain to rewire itself so you think positive thoughts instead of negative thoughts. I...
Forum: Depression and Suicide February 27th 2017, 12:17 AM
Replies: 1
Views: 2,102
Posted By del677
Re: A Load Off My Chest... (tw: depression, self harm, suicide mention)

Wow that's an amazing story! Thank you for sharing that.

The school system sounds like one big stress factory! So much stress!

I know stress is what triggered my depression. The stress of...
Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction February 25th 2017, 08:06 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 5,421
Posted By del677
Re: smoking and alcohol

I am grateful by how many people have come forth with their own story of struggle with addiction, offering their support. These are the people who know better than anyone what it takes to recover,...
Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction February 18th 2017, 05:58 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 5,460
Posted By del677
Re: Prescription Med Addiction

I haven't any suggestions, only my own experience to offer.

I used to take ativan and a sleeping pill (Lunesta) together, because it always worked.

Then I decided it was a bad idea to mix them,...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress February 8th 2017, 08:08 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 3,437
Posted By del677
Re: Watching Football = Anxiety?

Thank you :)

Good point: I was so focused on the outcome, as if the fate of the world was at stake, I wasn't present so I could enjoy the game.

Next time I won't chose a side and care about the...
Forum: Anxiety and Stress February 6th 2017, 07:56 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 3,437
Posted By del677
Watching Football = Anxiety?

My team lost.

Actually I don't have a team. I don't follow sports. But Superbowl parties with my friends who do watch football are fun.

There's lots of food, most of which probably isn't...
Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction January 29th 2017, 09:23 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 5,379
Posted By del677
Re: drinking problem

Well done!

There's a YouTube video:

Is Addiction Really a Disease? Dr. Kevin McCauley

which explains the brain and addiction. (Yes it is a disease.)

There are a few other videos by him...
Forum: Education and Careers January 26th 2017, 08:21 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 5,581
Posted By del677
Re: Alone at school

Have you been diagnosed with Asperger's, or High Functioning Autism?

If you had some sort of diagnosis you could tell them, then they would understand that it's normal for you to prefer being...
Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction January 26th 2017, 08:00 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 5,379
Posted By del677
Re: drinking problem

Addiction is a stress disorder. When you're stressed the rational thinking part of the brain shuts down, allowing the more primitive emotional part to take control. Stress leads to relapse.

Learn...
Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction January 18th 2017, 09:03 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 4,588
Posted By del677
Re: Gray area concerning recreational marijuana?

My only concern is do you use marijuana to escape stress, or just for fun?

Using drugs to escape stress is what leads to addiction.

Otherwise, if just for fun and you're not stressed to begin...
Forum: Relationships and Dating January 13th 2017, 07:41 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,130
Posted By del677
Re: Bi, dating, and preferences

Maybe reassure him you DO like him and want to stay with him (for now).

Saying you prefer women could be interpreted as your interest in men is waning, which in turn could imply your interest in...
Forum: Self Harm January 11th 2017, 07:16 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,861
Posted By del677
Re: I need help with telling someone about my self harm issues

First of all congratulations on having a boyfriend!

I think anyone you tell their first thought would be, "How can I help? What should I do." They may need some coaching on this, which you can...
Forum: Rape and Abuse January 7th 2017, 07:28 AM
Replies: 25
Views: 1,637
Posted By del677
Re: I if I wasn't really raped what happened to me?

Not rape.

Rape is forced.

Love is kind.
Forum: Drugs, Alcohol and Addiction January 3rd 2017, 07:17 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 7,299
Posted By del677
Re: Alcohol abuse

AA meetings are wonderful places where you can make friends and find that sense of belonging. You can feel a part of a group, and feel accepted, and that commradery becomes an alternative to alcohol....
Forum: Self Harm December 28th 2016, 08:10 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 3,107
Posted By del677
Re: My dad found out about my self harm scars

Are you depressed? Usually cutting is a sign of serious depression.

Hospitals are for people who can not function at all. They're expensive, so there's a huge incentive to NOT put anyone in the...
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